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Yup, just the tiniest belly hang, chubby arms, chubby face. Pants come unbuttoned in front of the TV most nights. :) She was around 185-190 when she said she was going to go on a diet and lose some weight, and, that didn’t exactly work out.

Well good luck. I do think that if you've been married that long and have a kid and have an otherwise good relationship that she'd be open to talking with you about this stuff, but I also totally understand not wanting to get in her head or mess up your current dynamic. I've watched my wife go from 135 lbs to almost 220 lbs in about the same amount of time, and while it would def be awesome if she was bigger/if she was more into feedism herself, it's still been an awesome ride. She knows what I like and while she hasn't been gaining intentionally, she definitely stopped trying to diet a few years in, and the trendline has only kept going up since then...

Super hot. Reminds me of my wife's own journey. I do think you can let her know what you're into more explicitly without coercing her into doing something she doesn't want to do. It sounds like she might suspect some things already! But you can say something like "I've always been attracted to you and always will be, but as you've gotten bigger you have driven me more and more crazy. If you got even bigger you'd drive me even MORE crazy. I'd never ask you to do that, but I wanted to share this part of myself with you and let you know that I'll be into you no matter what happens." Even if this doesn't end up being something she's into herself, my experience has been that KNOWING for sure that you're into her will help her stay confident. And that the "permission slip" to not go on a diet and eat whatever she wants will eventually lead to some weight gain even if she's not doing it on purpose.

Don't try to make her enjoy something she isn't into. She deserves someone who is into her as she is, and you can find someone more compatible with your desires too. The situation you're describing is a recipe for "starting to text with your ex because you're sexually frustrated." I've been there, trust me, it ends up being bad for everyone. Make the hard decision and let her go.