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  1. I saw the post on question, and it was definitely fatphobic. The original post in the thread read, “The fat positivity movement is getting out of hand,” followed by 2 photos of Ashley Graham. (Ms Graham looked snatched as hell though, which kind of undercut her point) OP is referring to a later post in the thread (see screencap). Take it with a huge pinch of salt. “Studies”? Citation needed! I’ve read a handful of these studies, and they are without exception extremely small-scale and unfocused. “The Impact of Psychological Stress on Men's Judgements of Female Body Size, 2012” had an experimental group of 41 participants. A paper in 2005 had just over 1000 participants, but these were split among 4 separate studies. Further, their criteria for separating populations (stressed vs unstressed, financially secure vs insecure) was highly questionable. How did they determine who was financially secure? They asked whether a participant was carrying cash on him/her at the moment. In another study, they asked participants to rank their worth by stating how much money they had in the bank, then to self-categorize themselves as either financially stable or not. In an odd twist, those with >$400k in the bank were more financially insecure than those with under $500. This is a long way of saying, sure, there may be some evolutionary component to partner selection in humans, but it remains under-researched. Anyone citing these “studies” is cherry-picking to pad a weak argument.
  2. This is a strange situation: you did something wrong, repeatedly, for a very long time, however apologizing now is the worst thing you can do. If the women you took advantage of truly had no idea of your true intentions, letting them know can only make them feel used and manipulated. Hell, if these were outwardly innocuous conversations, these people probably don't even remember it. As far as coping with this going forward, it sounds like you are on the right path. You've looked at your past actions, you feel remorse, and you want to change. How you change is another matter. Unless there is a compulsive aspect to your behavior (i.e. you don't feel that you can stop yourself from doing this again) I don't believe therapy is required. I would recommend: Be more open about your sexuality and fetish(es) when appropriate. You like fat women. It's not a big deal, and people will get over it. Seek sexual fulfillment in healthier ways (go on a date!) Talk with like-minded people here or on one of the many other fat fetish sites to provide you another outlet for these urges. Be careful who you associate with though--not everyone puts the same emphasis on ethics. Lastly, if you find yourself in a similar situation again, one where you are withholding information that puts the other person at a disadvantage, either tell the truth or change the topic. The latter is the better choice in most cases.
  3. My wife has gotten pretty bold in commenting on her weight. Last night I joined her and some friends for beers. They started without me since I had gotten stuck at the office, and just as I arrived I heard my wife say, “I remember being 23—back then it didn’t feel like work to stay 115 lbs. Now I’m 33 and I’ve turned into two of that girl.” Unfortunately I missed out on the context for this since I arrived late, but it was hot hearing her speak so openly about getting fat. On top of that I’ve always measured her gain from the time we met, when she weighed about 135. I have never considered that she is literally twice the woman she was 10 years ago.
  4. I wish I had another “after” for this outfit, but this is roughly 2 years apart.
  5. Of course I wasn’t really in the mood to weigh her the day I tried to break up with her, but she was around 225. Better believe I weighed her when she turned up at all of 260 though.
  6. I just posted about my feedee ex in another thread, but this comment really reminded me of her. When we met she was like most overweight people, trying to remain as slim as possible even if she wasn’t very slim at all. When I told her after a few months that I wanted her fatter, she was pretty excited about the idea. I remember her telling me how silly it felt that she had been trying to hide her weight from me, when it turned out that was what excited me most. She loved that her body had instantly gone from undesirable to appealing, and she wanted more. It turned into a strange dynamic. She had a controlling side to her that could make her unpleasant to be around. After about a year I ended things because she was so damn abrasive. She must have had a plan, because she waited 2 months before turning up at my door 30 pounds heavier. She had spent the fall of that year gorging herself to become irresistible to me, which in retrospect is in line with the controlling tendency I mentioned. I’m embarrassed to say the ploy worked that time, and several times after that. She reveled not just in getting fat, but also in acting fat. I remember once at a bar she rested a drink on her belly, waiting for someone to notice, and giving me the most devilish look the entire time. She would tell me about work lunches where she would stall for time so as to be last to order, then get more food than everyone else at the table. She kept the outfit she was wearing the first time we met, and loved packing her fattened body into it even when the former midi dress looked more like a peplum top.
  7. A few years back I was in a feedist relationship with a woman that brought her from ~180 lbs at 5’10” to 425 lbs over the course of 5 years. It is still one of the most fulfilling experiences of my life. Though she carried most of the weight around her middle, it wasn’t until she hit 350 that she got a real belly—mostly we made her very wide. Then, right toward the end of the relationship, her face suddenly ballooned, and her neck disappeared under a wreath of fat. This was actual magic to me. This woman was addicted to food and getting fat. Unfortunately we didn’t click outside the bedroom (and kitchen), otherwise she might be 600+ today. As far as the fattest I would want a partner to be, since I’m married now the question realistically is “how fat do you want your wife to get?” Since we met she has put on about 100 lbs, but I want so much more. I dream about getting her up to 450 lbs or so, but we have a long time ahead of us to get there. Since she’s much shorter than my ex-feedee at 5’4”, each pound is more visible on her. Her body type too is totally different: she carries everything in a perfectly round potbelly that defies all attempts to conceal it. She can’t even wear a belt to play at having a waistline, as the belt would have to sit just under her chest to clear her gut. Her body is just perfect to me.
  8. You express some valid points here, but you’re entirely off-base suggesting this is a new phenomenon. Women have been overprescribed harmful medications for centuries. The classic is laudanum (tincture of opium) which was widely distributed under hundreds of names as pain relief for menstrual cramps. In the mid 20th-century there was the “Mother’s Little Helper” era, when new sedatives like Valium were pushed hard on women. From the 30s, amphetamines were the drug of choice for figure-conscious women. There was even a US Senate investigation in the 60s due to the number of deaths caused by “rainbow diet pill” regimens—cocktails of diet pills taken throughout the day mixed with other drugs to counteract side effects. When these were banned, other similarly-dangerous drugs stepped in, like Phen Phen (legal) and cocaine (not legal, but nearly as prevalent). Adding SSRIs to the list, you have drugs that fit into 2 categories: drugs intended to ease the feelings of anxiety or depression common to women, and drugs intended to reduce women’s bodies. This raises questions. Why are women more prone to depression? Why are women expected to remain a certain size at all costs? Possibly both questions share an answer. Women are a marginalized group, whose opinions and lives have always been suppressed for the benefit of men. Unlike other marginalized populations though, the dominant group (men) require and desire women to exist. The history of medication for women indicates that men are happier to drug the women they love, rather than talk, empathize, or make any sort of positive change for them. There is certainly a capitalist force at work here. Not that the drugs were created but that they were so heavily advertised demonstrates that industry was driven by profit motive rather than clinical rigor. It puts a lampshade on the joke that there is always a “safer alternative” ready when one class of drugs is deemed destructive and banned. It is key when discussing social politics to remember that nothing is new. Every way that modern society oppresses marginal groups has been around in some form throughout our history.
  9. I always feel a bit squeamish opening up about my sex life. Obviously it’s personal and private, but more than that I always find stories like this objectifying and uncomfortable. I do want to share though, so let me preface by saying that the fat and feeding kink is a very small part of our relationship. We are very deeply in love, and I know we would still be married today even if I had had to push that part of my sexuality aside. I just got very lucky that I didn’t need to. From the very beginning I was open with my girlfriend—now wife—about my kink. When we met 10 years ago, she had just returned from university and was spending all her free time dieting and exercising to drop the college weight, getting down to just north of 140 lbs. She did not want to regain the weight, but was very open to being treated and spoiled. My wife has always had a taste for junk food and fast food: she claims she only ever went to the gym so she could eat cheeseburgers afterward. I began by surprising her at work with her favorite treats, so often that her coworkers told me I was the sweetest boyfriend ever. Obviously my wife knew different, but that didn’t stop her demolishing those care packages throughout the work day. Next I expanded her palate. She grew up in a meat-and-potatoes sort of house, which meant there were tons of common foods she had just never tried. (I do mean common too: at age 22 she had never eaten a sweet potato!) I pushed her to expand her horizons, try new things, and before long she was constantly looking to taste new flavors and go on foodie adventures just to have that experience of novelty again. She began to balloon immediately. We have photos from our first trip together, when we went to Las Vegas about 3 months into our relationship. We looked at them together not long ago, and my wife was shocked at how chubby she looked! Not wrong there either. It’s obvious she already had regained about 25 lbs by that point. She carries almost all her weight in the belly and thighs, and that belly was very apparent in all her tank tops. It wasn’t until she hit about 180-190 lbs that she grew comfortable with feeding and incorporating fat play into our sex life. She had drawn a mental connection between stuffing herself and my own arousal (not a massive leap if we’re being honest), and she was eager to test those limits. It started small—one night she promised to eat a cookie for each orgasm she had—but soon grew more intense. One of her favorite games now is to take a small edible before I get home from work then ask me to take her out to dinner, where she proceeds to eat until she can barely breathe. Then she always says the same thing, “Take me home and show me what a good eater I am.” After that I never disappoint. Ten years in, she is a very different person. She recently crested 250 lbs, making for a 110 pound gain. She sees herself as a fat woman now, and has no plans to diet. It may be wishful thinking, but I am starting to suspect she may even be dreaming bigger. She told me during sex the other night—after pigging out on burgers and shakes—that she wanted me to make her huge. (“As big as our bed,” were her exact words) She was just teasing me of course, but I have noticed some clues since then that it may have been more than pillow talk. Time will tell.
  10. You know, this was an unexpectedly sincere and positive take for the internet. I also hope she continues to find happiness, wherever that may lead her.
  11. Not knowing your particular situation, I hope you will forgive me for generalizing, but the stigma will be less-bad than you are imagining. By way of example, my wife has put on almost 100 pounds in the years we have been together. There are times when it is difficult for her: the occasional breakdown because she’s outgrown all her clothes, or maybe a lecture from the doctor will rattle her. Apart from that, the people who loved her don’t love her less for being fat. If they did though, I’m sure she would not be super interested in maintaining a relationship with such shallow people. Being in a loving, long-term relationship helped too, as friends and family worried less about her being “too fat to find someone”. The one time an ex-boyfriend did give her grief about getting fat, she pinned it (fairly) on me, and that was the end of it. Sometimes I read stories about people facing discrimination at work for their weight. The “fat=lazy” prejudice remains popular, even when half the population is overweight. You may need to consider any potential weight gain in light of your current job and future goals, but this at least hasn’t been an issue with my wife’s bosses. If getting fat is something you want to experience for yourself (i.e. it’s your own wish and not your partner’s), you should go for it. As you have already demonstrated, weight can be lost if it turns out to be too much to handle. Good luck!
  12. This is weird: I logged on just now to make a “post your all-time favorite WG stories” thread, only to find this one! “Fat to Reality” - my favorite. Unfortunately it’s a Kindle book, but unlike most of the Kindle erotica I’ve seen it’s actually worth buying. There is a sample here. Like a lot of this kind of stories, FtR goes off the rails in the final act, but it still is enjoyable throughout. “Big Fat Liar” by AtlasD - I don’t usually like magic-based fattening in my fiction, but this one does it for me. “Backfired” by snr6424 - role-reversal fans take note. This is a goodie.
  13. Ok, a couple years ago Eliza Allure was in a very short film--possibly credited under an alias--done all in black-and-white, with quick cuts and a heavy, bassy soundtrack. There are several close ups of her body, then a brief sex scene. I don't think it was longer than 3 minutes. Curvage, help?
  14. Yes, she is very good at pushing out and sucking in her face, hips and thighs. Come on, man--just cool it with this weird cynicism for even a minute.
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