Ethics of picturing gf at last year's (chubbier) weight

[Guest hhh]

Say your gf who is normally pretty thin gained a lovely bit of chub last year, but this year went back to her original weight (because of her physically active job).  Is it that wrong to still arouse oneself/envision her/enjoy photos of her at her chubbier weight, even if she no longer is?  It's not like you're picturing someone else.  Just your very own woman, with the extra chub she once had, and hopefully will have again one day.

[chrissy]

Let me just say, this is probably not the place to be asking questions about ethics of sexual arousal and pornography... But here's my totally unqualified advice: Is she aware that this is your fetish? If not, she ought to know. Figure out a way to break it to her. That's going to be tough and I don't have advice for you there, but since you seem to be concerned about it, that's my suggestion.

Now don't blame me if she freaks out about it... on the other hand, maybe she'll be totally cool about it! I think if she really loves you, she'll appreciate your honesty and you can work from there.

[Guest I don't fucking care about]

Fantasies are okay if they stay just that, fantasies. Don't obsess over it, seriously, and do not use it to exclusively knock your socks off. That's how you get weird sexual hangups.

 

Ethically, as long as you're not turning your fantasies into expectations, you're good. If you try to make your fantasies come to life, do it with consent or don't try at all.

[Guest BlasterMaster]

When my wife gains weight I look at her skinnier pictures and think about how hot it is that she has put on weight.

 

When she loses weight I look at the pictures from when she was heavier and think about how hot it would be if she put the weight back on.

I don't see anything unethical about either of these activities. 

[John Smith]

I am a sworn bachelor type, so perhaps my viewpoint about your situation has quite inadequate.

But I'll give you my opinion anyway : asking about any sex/couple relationship-life ethics stuff to anyone attending into such Fat Admiring, WG/Feederism-related "fetish" social media website like this one, to where a very substantial number of his most recurrent members - including me - post there since months even years testimonial written stories, pictures even videos about women whose gotten increasingly fat and/or fatter overtime whenever she has for our respective lives a perfect unkown, that girl-next-door, a "friend" , a "sista from the Familyzone" , our high school crush teacher, the loved/hated girlfriend's distant kindred, our own married patron (no jokes) , some deceptively well-known cougar superstar even the next Queen of England or ex-American First Lady (no jokes neither : Kate and Michelle got their own fan threads over here too) is anything but an absolute waste of time and gigabits.

This is like been some boob-"fetish" guy who actually asking the same thing in "TheChive" website about which if the casual fact he has aroused by old pictures of his girlfriend before she spent money for reduce her 48JJJ cartoonishly-perky udders to some socially-average size (which, for us North Americans, has a whereabout C or D cup) or some hardcore douche bodybuilder from "Bodybuildingdatorg" asking to anyone if he might mandating his wife for a divorce since she swifted her unnaturally Arnold-Schartznegger's-doppëlganger-on-'roid-&-stretchy-bikini shape for a much feminine, waddling three-seated a** of overmotherly behemoth after years of professionnal retirement then four pregnancies, worthy enough for 'My 600-lbs Life' 
Or, Kanye West asking to Black Twitter if dare comparing his musical carrier with late Michael Jackson's one, marrying a Kardashian then supporting Donald Trump weren't FAR too much.


I mean, you have entierely the self-right to love and cherish your girlfriend whatever her appareance or size. Same as having some picky preferences about which appareance or size especially. 
However, like said somebody above, is your girlfriend has aware about your preferences? If yes, it's a good thing. If not, tell her now or for soon because, sooner or later, she'll done by figure out by herself there has something of wrong in your couple since she lost weight thus necessairly by have some doubts or leads about your sexual/physical preferences : in this case, this could mostly lead to a breaking-up because women whose evolving inside a mostly thin-worship society weren't necessairly all closet or self-undecided WG/Feederism-"fetish" types neither.

Nonetheless, I understand your struggle. 
 

[lamond22]

I think it is fine but you should tell her.   I tell my girl I look at pictures of her all the time.  She immediately said, "anyones in particular?"  I said the ones were you are curviest.  She  loves that I look at her and has become increasingly ok with adding and keeping a few pounds on

[Guest hhh]

She knows I liked her a lot at that weight, and definitely sort of embraced it.  Her weight loss since then has been unintentional, and she knows I liked her body better before, but can't really do anything about it, short of getting a new job (which she might actually do this winter).

[chrissy]

K, then open season I guess? It's your mind. Not like you're imagining another woman or something.