PSA: Think before you f*cking comment

[PreyToGod]

 

AKA Investigating The Mysterious Disappearance of [Insert moniker of innumerable number of gainers who've vanished without a trace] 

After the abrupt disappearance of a few burgeoning gainers/stuffers/feedees/whateverthefucks , I feel the need to post a quick PSA exhorting you all to be tactful and minimize the creep factor when commenting on any such content. You might think it's all in good nature and that the girl will find it equally erotic, but the fact is, if a young lady who's beginning to experiment with her body by gaining a little weight is met with ad nauseum variations of 'you're quite a filthy fat pig aren't you? I should imagine you'll be 400lbs this time next year. Oh how i'd love to stick an apple in your mouth, skewer and roast you over a fire!' (Extreme example obviously) , well there's almost no way they're not going to be perturbed.

Not to mention their DM's are almost certainly carpet bombed with similar messages.  Basically if you're guilty of leaving these creepy pseudo-erotic comments, perhaps fucking think twice before leaving them because it's going to be undoubtedly counter-productive and detrimental for all parties. You can envisage whatever kind of bizarre fantasy scenario you want but please if you must comment just keep it to a simple/endearing 'You hold the extra pounds really well'  or 'looking voluptuous af' or something as cheesy/simple as 'gorgeous'. And refrain from DM'ing them completely unless they literally request it, and even then, don't unleash your debased fantasies on them at the get-go.

Basically just stop thinking with your cock and put yourselves in the shoes of a often somewhat confused younger woman who's dabbling in a peculiar fetish possibly out of insecurity,  not some hardened pornstar. 

P.S I realize this message isn't relevant to most who will read it, but it's something i wanted to get off my chest too. 

[S77]

TL:DR;

Don't be a creep! You're scaring people!!!

[PreyToGod]

Yeah that's it.  Also while i don't think this is a particularly perverse fetish in light of a lot of other more common ones - fact its real moderate especially compared to shit where pain or torment is involved - it can be a fairly embarrassing/difficult one to explain. I'm into chubby not bbw as such, but even then, since I'm a bit of a gym junkie who's mates are similarly minded, it would honestly probably be easier admitting to having a S&M fetish than a FA one.  Point being that this obscurity of this fetish is definitely gonna be weighing on the minds of any models dabbling in it so they'll be extra sensitive to comments most likely, which is unfortunate as there's a lot of mutual satisfaction to be had here too (to a certain degree) . aight sorry im just talking to myself now.

[Jabba Desilijic Tiure]

10 hours ago, PreyToGod said:

 

AKA Investigating The Mysterious Disappearance of [Insert moniker of innumerable number of gainers who've vanished without a trace] 

After the abrupt disappearance of a few burgeoning gainers/stuffers/feedees/whateverthefucks , I feel the need to post a quick PSA exhorting you all to be tactful and minimize the creep factor when commenting on any such content. You might think it's all in good nature and that the girl will find it equally erotic, but the fact is, if a young lady who's beginning to experiment with her body by gaining a little weight is met with ad nauseum variations of 'you're quite a filthy fat pig aren't you? I should imagine you'll be 400lbs this time next year. Oh how i'd love to stick an apple in your mouth, skewer and roast you over a fire!' (Extreme example obviously) , well there's almost no way they're not going to be perturbed.

Not to mention their DM's are almost certainly carpet bombed with similar messages.  Basically if you're guilty of leaving these creepy pseudo-erotic comments, perhaps fucking think twice before leaving them because it's going to be undoubtedly counter-productive and detrimental for all parties. You can envisage whatever kind of bizarre fantasy scenario you want but please if you must comment just keep it to a simple/endearing 'You hold the extra pounds really well'  or 'looking voluptuous af' or something as cheesy/simple as 'gorgeous'. And refrain from DM'ing them completely unless they literally request it, and even then, don't unleash your debased fantasies on them at the get-go.

Basically just stop thinking with your cock and put yourselves in the shoes of a often somewhat confused younger woman who's dabbling in a peculiar fetish possibly out of insecurity,  not some hardened pornstar. 

P.S I realize this message isn't relevant to most who will read it, but it's something i wanted to get off my chest too. 

k, w/e....can i see ur tits pls

[PreyToGod]

8 hours ago, Jabba Desilijic Tiure said:

k, w/e....can i see ur tits pls

lol but even that is so much more reasonable than some of the comments ive seen one which went something like :  "You're a real piglet. Soon you'll be unrecognizable. Your friends will stop hanging out with you out of sheer embarrassment and your parents will probably disown you. Shortly after that you'll need a mobility scooter and a rag on a stick to wash your numerous folds with. Perfect."  idk i can't even deal with that shit 

[Jabba Desilijic Tiure]

3 hours ago, PreyToGod said:

lol but even that is so much more reasonable than some of the comments ive seen one which went something like :  "You're a real piglet. Soon you'll be unrecognizable. Your friends will stop hanging out with you out of sheer embarrassment and your parents will probably disown you. Shortly after that you'll need a mobility scooter and a rag on a stick to wash your numerous folds with. Perfect."  idk i can't even deal with that shit 

Well, to be fair, some girls come on here(and plenty of other places, of course) and love the humiliation aspect of this whole thing...they literally beg for guys to insult and be "as brutal as possible" towards them.  When that type of invitation is explicitly provided, literally anything goes.  Suffice to say, I still don't participate, be it online or in the bedroom - because that sort of filthy talk just makes me feel....gross.  Even if it's just considered "Role Playing".  Is that kind of self-inflicted degradation really healthy?   Yearning to be verbally abused in a graphic sexual nature doesn't seem as though everything is completely bright and cheery deep down inside.  Not trying to play amateur therapist here, but... 

[Guest Smithsonius]

Also worth bearing in mind that a lot of triggers for gainers and the like disappearing is not comments from creeps, but a whole bunch of other things, including doxxing and/or 'real world' stalking.

Noticed recently as another example that pizza lover on youtube has closed her account and appears to have left the community. While correlation isn't causation it is worth noting that this happened within like a day of all her vids appearing on **, itself something that hadn't happened until a week or so after the account first showed up on here...

Still one can hope she just decided on a break and maybe reappears. But this is hardly uncommon.

[Gusto]

Aside from the stalking issues (worrying some creep or psycho may hunt them down), there are numerous other factors that may lead to a girl disappearing from the scene. I've seen some girls leave after some asshole threatened to post their personal info online. There have been several who left because they weren't happy about people stealing their content.

A lot of girls get bombarded with hundreds of messages daily and find the continual requests annoying or overwhelming. Guys don't always respond well when their affections are ignored/rejected, and sometimes the only way for them to deal with the dysfunctional/crazies is to disappear.

Some girls may change their mind about gaining for various reasons - not wanting to eat so much every day, health issues, the desire to avoid the social ramifications of getting fat, criticism from family/friends, fear they won't find a partner, cost of gaining, hassle of buying new clothes, fear mongering by doctors, concern that the fat may not look good on them, etc.  Facial changes are often esp difficult to adjust to, and some leave because they don't feel as attractive with a fat face (its not just that they get a double chin - their whole face changes so they don't even feel like themselves anymore).

Others don't like being objectified & feeling that their self-worth is based on how much they gain or how well the fat distributes itself on their body, and may feel pressured to gain perpetually in order to be accepted by the community. They may also not be comfortable with the fact that their feeder is simultaneously admiring/supporting other gainers (brings up the same emotions as if they were in a relationship with a guy who is cheating on them). They may fear that once they're fat, their feeder will leave them for a thin girl who is just starting out on their gaining journey.

I'm sure there are a ton of other reasons girls leave, but these were the only ones I could think of off the top of my head based on the conversations I've had with feedees over the years.

[Guest grateful]

This is a broad topic with so many facets and I applaud anyone who's willing to look at the issues and apply some wisdom in their own on line life.

I agree with the comment problem. Even at my best in real life, I have said some really weird things and I imagine it's easy to be careless behind the cloak of anonymity.

Recently, I was reading comments in a group of guys who like hairy arms on a girl.

These guys mean to compliment and encourage, but as soon as a link shows up, they are all over social media giving "encouragement" that may sound like something from outer space to those they "admire" and subsequently, in nearly every case, they succeed in eliminating that which they admire the most.

Another common phenomenon, is that some feel beating a provider out of revenue is a fare and just thing to do.

Also, I am shocked at how thinly veiled a newbie's personal information can be, and I know that, while someone is busy associating with our community and hasn't given it a thought, there will be those who stay up all night trying to figure out who they are, and once they do, might do something really weird with that information.

Add to this, the endless clamoring for content, as if those who visit here owe the regulars something - usually "more and more" until they tire of it.

There will always be hurtful people who will damage situations in an unpredictable way, and there will always be folks who change their mind concerning what they are doing, which is their right, and they may frequently seem to  underestimate the impact of "webicide" or radical changes in on line behaviors.

Maybe a FAQ for newbies and appreciators might help.

This is still our little family of folks who have this "thing" in common, and there will always be "the weird uncle in the attic".

I am grateful that Super and all the participants have taken the risks to put up this material, and I will always believe that it's better to have a forum, even with problems, than to have none at all.

[PreyToGod]

Yeah some good responses here, and I do  recognize there are many more contributing factors here , most if not all of which have now been outlined.

I feel like one which stands out as being particularly salient is the likely disillusionment when the gainer realizes that their 'fans' aren't necessarily these virtuous, supportive people so much as they are fetishists seeking to indulge in their own perversions, and creepy/possessive comments make that patently clear. No doubt if the gain is sudden and significant enough the societal pressure would also be enormous and enough to cause even the most confident of characters to feel somewhat dejected. So yeah I guess most posters are destined to be ticking time bombs and any content we get is a blessing really. 

Then ppl who dox are just scum and completely fuck it up for the rest of us, like the (future serial killer?) who hammered a nail into a waterslide at my local swimming pool and caused some pour soul to get severely lacerated - resulting in the slide being removed entirely. 

[John Smith]

This thread is a heart cry.