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I think a big part of the danger with drinking so much water, so quickly, is it basically washes all the electrolytes, salts, etc. out of your body. That's dangerous. If someone chugged a 2 liter container of something like gatorade instead, it's unlikely they'd die from that since it contains all that stuff in it.

Every pound looks amazing! Hope we get to see more of you here soon!

Yep... agree with this last post. A "functional limit" is the main thing, really. Different people carry their weight differently and things like a person's overall bone structure and even how long they've been a bigger/heavier person matter. (As much as many people in this whole community find it a huge turn-on for a smaller person to rapidly gain a lot of weight? Those are *probably* going to be the people who find themselves less mobile and with more aches, pains and difficulties due to their size if they get too big, vs the "large framed" women who have always been "the biggest one in my class in school" and so on.) I've also come to accept that the simple "fetish" aspect of weight gain/size as a turn-on for me doesn't translate perfectly/neatly to who I'd actually be happy with as a partner. Anyone can watch weight gain videos and be turned on by the content, in other words. But living with a person and going out on dates with them involves a whole lot of things that aren't being shown in the "fap videos". Practically speaking, I used to date one girl with a crazy huge appetite. It was a big turn-on to me just to find out how much she ate for a meal or a snack. But in reality, I would have gotten upset/angry at some point if she was living with me and I was constantly finding the pantry and fridge emptied out. I couldn't afford that big a grocery bill at the time, and wouldn't have liked buying stuff I wanted, only to find it was all gone when I felt like eating it. Other people will have ZERO issue with something like that, and that's great! It's all about each of us figuring out what we really want in life and being able to separate fantasy from it where necessary.

Hey man, just wanted to say I know exactly what you mean. I'm divorced as of last year and just started trying to re-enter the dating scene. Everyone tells me I just need to be more patient and it's way too soon to make negative judgements about all of it. But I can't help but feel like it's the worst time ever to be single and dating. So many people have spent the last year and a half pretty much isolated in fear due to COVID, and those who tried to carry on as "normal" a lifestyle as they could were still blocked by all the closures of restaurants, museums and other places they wanted to go. But I'm old enough to see a lot of other things changed too. The "old days" of online dating let people just post personals ads on sites like Craigslist where they could write in detail about their interests, desires and so on. Now, everything's a Tindr copy-cat. Swipe left or swipe right! Barely any info about someone up front ... just some summary stuff they were supposed to add to their photos. Can't even use most dating sites from a computer anymore. Everything's "cellphone only". I finally met a woman I'm kind of interested in (and she's tall, thick and chunky -- but we met via an old friend and I technically knew her already, in passing, from a long time ago). This could work except she compensated for dealing with her own messy divorce by working long hours and getting a dog that needs a lot of attention, etc. Now, she's sort of boxed herself into a situation where she barely has any free time to date. I keep trying - but I fear getting resigned to the "friend zone" any time now, with a sob story about "just not cut out to date or have a partner anymore". It's tough, though, having an interest/fetish for things like weight gain in a society that still treats it as a "health issue" and a negative thing to be avoided. My thing is, I have multiple interests that I can kind of "mix and match". Like I'm into strong/muscular women too -- and muscle is more dense than the same amount of fat. So a bigger woman who is cool with working out and building some muscle while not focusing on the cardio and weight-loss aspect can wind up both heavier AND healthier. To me, it's just win-win all around. But my ex started getting into that and then changing course. Can't figure out if it was due to comments from others and her getting self-conscious, or if it was just part of losing interest in me and therefore wanting the opposite of whatever I liked, or ?? In any case, I'm pretty sure it's common for a woman to pursue the opposite look of what a former boyfriend/husband was into after a breakup or divorce.... With seemingly ever other woman making an OnlyFans page or whatnot lately? I feel like I'm really uncertain how many truly like things like fat/weight gain vs seeing it as easy money. That, too, bothers me about all of this.

I honestly wonder sometimes who thought it was a good idea to design those toilets that way? I've been in quite a few restrooms where you can see those toilets are bent down at an angle or starting to come loose from the wall. Does she kind of enjoy seeing what things can actually support her weight and what can't? My ex-wife was a 5'10" black gal who weighed about 305 before we met. She started losing some weight by the time we were dating but was still maybe 265-270. She told me once that she used to have a big collection of clothes including winter coats and all. So a big concern for her when renting a place was it having a good sized closet with a really sturdy bar to hang everything up on. So every time she looked at one, when nobody was looking, she'd sneak in the bedroom closet and hang from the clothes bar to see if it could hold her. (And she said this was when she was at her heaviest.) If it bent or started coming loose from the wall before she even got her feet off the ground, she just walked away and wouldn't consider the place. I asked her if that happened much and she said, "Yeah.... most of the time! I finally found a place with this huge walk-in closet that had real sturdy iron pipe clothes bars bolted up to the walls. I could get up there and swing on those and all they did was flex a little. So I signed the lease for that one!" Knowing how sexy I found that whole thing? She played around a few times, later on, with the "Let's see if this can hold me?" game. (Doing a flexed arm-hang off of a hotel room's clothes bar attached to one of those wooden shelves on the wall was possible, BTW, but 265-270lbs. is enough to make it protest loudly with some creaks, groaning and a pop or two from the wall.) A good, sturdy ironing board can also double as a "horse" to straddle. They can't hold her full weight, but with both feet on the floor, she could bounce it with partial weight and make the legs spread further apart and pop back up closer together again. She said she estimated the ones she played around with could hold a skinny 110-120lb. woman with her legs dangling.

Yeah -- I totally get that. I've dated a few really big women before myself, but nobody quite in the 600lb.+ range. I find that over a certain size, most women are reaching the point of immobility (and often have that as a goal). To each their own, but that's not my thing. I love seeing big women who are still able to get around and who expect things to support their weight (and don't care when they can't and they break something). One of my ex g/f's was a former gymnast and was quite muscular, despite packing on a lot of weight on top of that. Her weight was probably 420-440lbs. but she got around like she was much smaller. I remember at a friend's house party one time, we went out to get something from a car, and tried to get back in around the back where they had an old wooden deck. She was wearing heels and she punched one through one of the deck boards. She just got mad it was stuck in the board, like it happened a lot or something, and took her foot out of it so she could bend over and pull it loose again! She also destroyed one of those while plastic outdoor chairs that was on a patio at a bar we were at. The chair held her up for a few minutes and then the back legs just buckled and snapped off of it. I don't think she ever broke any stair steps, but I remember the wood ones at some apartments would creak and sag noticeably if she walked up them, stepping in the middle. And after drinking at a friend's party at his apartment one time, we had gone upstairs in one of the bedrooms with a few other people. Some music was on and this "thick, but not really fat" girl we knew started jumping up and down to one of the songs, getting her (pretty good sized) boobs bouncing. (She was always kind of a show-off and proud of her chest, so none of us were surprised.) My g/f said something to her about that being one way to get guys' attention real quick. She laughed and pointed out that her chest was even bigger, and that my g/f should try getting her "big puppies" bouncing too. So she starts jumping up and down, shaking the floor, and we're all admiring her big chest (and butt) shaking with each hop. Next thing we know, people are yelling from downstairs and the guy having the party comes running up, screaming for "all of us to stop jumping" because it's shaking the whole apartment and rattling downstairs windows. We all started cracking up laughing because he thought it was more than one person doing it. The girl who started it just said, "Damn ... I wish I could do that with this body!"

Well .... As someone else commented too, I definitely don't want to come across as "telling you what to do" with your own body. That decision is nobody's but your own. But I'd also just caution that you should decide what's best for you based on your own health and comfort level. I wouldn't want you to fall into a trap of trying to lose a bunch of weight just because the last relationship ended badly with someone who preferred you bigger/thicker. Finding the right person is always a trial and error process! I say that as a guy who has been married and divorced twice now, and had to raise a kid pretty much on my own, from the time she was only 2. Even when you think you found a great partner you'd like to live with the rest of your life? Sometimes people change and realize they're not happy being the person they used to be. Then you can wind up unhappy with the new person they've changed into. FWIW it though? That's an absolutely amazing pic of your booty there.... Nothing to be self-conscious about at all in that photo. And IMO, the traditional Barbie doll was WAY too skinny. Pretty? Sure! But my "dream gal" would be a version of Barbie about 2-3x that thick.

It always intrigues me to see the "why" of these "non conformist" interests like preferring fat..... I, too, have to say the degrading women part of this "scene" is uncomfortable to me. I understand the appeal in a real basic, maybe even carnal way? But I was always raised to be a "nice guy" and truth is? My childhood was pretty normal in the sense my parents didn't get divorced, and I had two younger brothers, and we took summer family vacations... I went to private schools until half way through high school, etc. etc. I never liked to get into a fight, and I consider myself a pretty intelligent guy. It just goes against my nature to mistreat a woman, calling her degrading names and so on. For me, the appeal of fat women probably goes back to my preferences I discovered I had back in grade school. The first girl I really found physically attractive, as in always wanting to stare at her when I got the chance, was thick and curvy. I especially remember liking her big thighs and calves. And I soon discovered I had a thing for really big boobs and butts on women. But I was completely turned off by implants. I think that reinforced my love of heavier, thicker women because especially at the time I was a teenager or young adult? There were a lot of women getting well known as exotic dancers or porn stars with ridiculously large breasts that were obviously fake, because the rest of their body was too thin for it to look realistic. The biggest struggle I've had, having this preference, is running up against women who are unhappy with their bodies. I've even been told I'm "sick in the head" for finding anything remotely attractive about fat, by a fat girl I liked. She proceeded to go on one of those "Biggest Loser" type TV shows as a contestant, in fact -- and I have no idea what became of her since then. I will say, too? I've come to realize I even have two different sides to my interest. I guess one part is the pure fetish component? That's the part where I have to admit I get turned on by a lot of the really large women who post pics or videos online. Yet in real life, I don't think I'd really find them my type at all. Because to *really* date someone, I want the whole package of them being reasonably mobile and active, being acceptably healthy (ignoring the doctors who act like simply being overweight = unhealthy), and quite frankly? I'm sure I'd grow tired of the considerable expense of buying the quantities of food that some of them are eating too. The women I'd absolutely love to get the opportunity to date or go out with steady are usually in more like the 200-275lb. range (depending on height and overall build/shape). I really do like the "counter culture/nonconformist" aspect of all of it though. I have a second fetish/turn-on that has to do with muscular women. And I've realized it has a nice intersection with my heavier/thicker preference. (Women who weigh more are going to have bigger leg muscles since they need stronger legs to carry their larger weight around, assuming they're doing the same amount of activity as anyone else is. Plus, there's that thing that muscle is more dense than fat, so women who build more muscle tend to weigh more than similar sized women who don't work out or who aren't genetically gifted as the more muscular type naturally.) But ultimately, all of these things are just preferences and kinks.... It's not a deal-breaker if a woman doesn't match up to any of them. I think it's been more of the deal-breaker if they DID but they decide they don't like those aspects of their own bodies and they try to change (lose weight or stop lifting weights if they used to), after we get together and they know those are attributes I liked about them.

This whole topic is probably one that makes a lot of people with the "fat fetish" really uncomfortable.... but I think it's absolutely worth discussing. If I'm completely honest? I find that for me, there are two different things at work here. First is my honest preference of the body type I find most attractive in the opposite sex. For me, that's always been a woman who is at least "thick and curvy". I always found big "thunder thighs" a turn-on since I first started looking at girls, some time in grade-school, and I love big boobs (as long as they're all natural). At some point, I really found big butts a turn-on too (maybe the beginning of the "twerking" thing got my attention there?). So someone with the combination of all of these in essentially a "big hourglass figure" is the ultimate in "OMG -- you have my attention!" And realistically? I guess I realized early on that if you have all of these large proportions and they're not surgically enhanced, you're going to have a belly with it. And that's fine! But, there's a secondary, more "fetishy" component too. I find it a turn on to see just how heavy a woman can get, and how much she can eat or drink at a time. There's something I just love about women who weigh enough to test the limits of a bathroom scale, and 10x better if they enjoy seeing if they can break one, once in a while. (I once had an ex-g/f who really enjoyed being heavy and had a goal to gain enough to outweigh her even bigger older sister. She replaced her regular bed frame legs with a frame sitting on bricks so it wouldn't break, but enjoyed teasing from time to time, seeing what other things could or couldn't support her weight. Those hotel bathroom countertops that are only attached on each end were always fun. She could hop up on those and really make some of them sag.) But -- she started out with a really athletic/muscular frame and was big-boned and broad shouldered her whole life. So she was probably way above average at carrying all of her weight without issues. She wasn't going to run any marathons or anything, but she was pretty active and could keep up with you, even doing activities like hiking outdoors or what-not. Truth is? A lot of the really big/heavy ladies out there just aren't in that category. I can find it sexy to watch some of them put away several large pizzas or chug down a 2 liter bottle of a drink .... but that, in itself, wouldn't make me want to date them, you know? Someone largely immobile does nothing for me EXCEPT for being turned on by those fetishy aspects of it.

Hmm... some really interesting comments in this thread. A few things I hadn't given a lot of thought to before, even. One thing I can tell you is at least for me? As I've gotten older, I've found my personal preferences for size/weight has gone up. I always liked "thick/curvy" women, but I also found my younger self in some situations where a girl I casually dated was "too big" for my tastes and when things got intimate, it was kind of a turn-off. As a guy in my 40's now, I think my younger self was crazy to turn some of them away like I did. I think it's probably natural for a person's tastes/preferences to evolve with time -- and maybe even based partially on who you had a long-term or serious relationship with already. (I can see how you'd find a certain body type really attractive, but after you spend years with someone who meets those criteria and then it ends? You're finding a different look/shape much more interesting for a future relationship?) Also? I think there's a dividing line between what's a "fetish" and what's just a preference. Like most "lines in the sand", it's not an exact science or anything. But I see specific "kinks" related to weight or size as the fetish aspect. Simply finding fat women attractive doesn't mean you have a "fat fetish", IMO. That would be like saying it's a fetish to prefer red-heads or blondes.... And I'm sure this has been pointed out MANY times on these forums before ... but I'd caution anyone not to count too much on picking an arbitrary weight as your "upper limit" of what you find attractive. I'm a guy who does have a "fetishy" component to my interests in bigger women that's all about the number on the scale. (I find it a big turn on when a woman weighs a lot more than most people would guess she does to look at her, and like to see how heavy someone like that can get before they start looking "really big" to people.) I can tell you, I've run across women with really large bellies and who just look really chubby all over, yet they don't weigh a whole lot. It's just a "light, fluffy" type of fat, on an apparently smaller bone structure. And by contrast, I've known plenty of women who the typical guy would guess "doesn't weigh more than maybe 175-185lbs.", who actually weighed 240-250. Muscle is more dense than fat, so a more muscular woman can easily weigh 10-15lbs. more than you'd think. But I've also heard that black women tend to have a bone structure that weighs about 15-20% more than white women of the same size. (I've dated inter-racially a lot and at least anecdotally, I'd say that's quite likely true.) I think as a generalization too? It seems to be the case that women with more weight in their lower half (thick legs and big butt) weigh considerably more than those who are more top or belly heavy. (Except for some real extreme cases? Even really large breasts on a woman, like H cup sizes, are probably only going to add 20lbs. to their weight, tops.)

Just saw this thread and you know? Your wife looks great at her size. It's tough to get a lot of women to understand that a lot of us really do find them sexier with more weight on them. I also get that everyone has a personal limit they hit though, where they're just not comfortable enough doing daily thing, lack energy, etc. I used to be friends with a lady who gained a lot of weight after each of her 3 kids and was married to a guy who was into big women. She always said that after her pregnancy caused her to have an appetite for two, she just kept going with it and started enjoying weighing bigger numbers after each kid. We were playing cards at one of her friend's houses and her friend wanted her to get on her scale to see how big she'd gotten. It was an old dial type scale and she bottomed it out with a clunk, well over its 330lb. limit. She just laughed and said her husband would sure have liked to see that if he was there. I said I liked seeing that too... pretty impressive. She told me she always envied women with a nice belly "apron" hang because she wanted to be able to go around her house without any bottoms on and know her private parts were covered by it. Her stomach didn't really start to hang enough for that until she got up past 320lbs. or so. So that's kind of her minimum weight she wanted to stay at. Her husband is a lucky guy!

I just had an interesting encounter.... With all the coronavirus stuff going around, I was laid off of my regular job and decided to try doing some deliveries and driving people around with ride-sharing services to make a few extra bucks. One of the rides I did told me to get a lady from one of these rehab places and said she was in a wheelchair. When I arrived, they wheeled this big black gal out and then they ran back inside to deal with someone else. She was angry they didn't help her into my vehicle (don't blame her for that!). She kind of looked around my car to see how it was set up, and then decided to call the place back and yell at them until they sent someone else back out to help. When we finally started on our way, she started telling me how she messed up a knee and had surgery on it, so she couldn't walk much right now. But she said she was "really strong" except for that, and she was looking to see if my car had a sturdy "grab handle" or bar when she was first trying to get in, because she could pull herself up and into the car on her own with no problem if it did. I said sorry, that mine didn't have one - which did seem like kind of an oversight. Most cars and trucks I've owned did have one. But I thought it was pretty cool she was that strong. She went on, asking if I'd ever seen that "My 600lb. Life" show on TV? I said I'd heard of it, and probably seen parts of an episode or two. She said, "Yeah.... I'm not really like those people. I weigh as much as some of them, but I'm really solid. And I can lift a LOT of weight with my arms." (I didn't want to say too much to her, but I was thinking "Wow... you're like several of my fetish interests all rolled into one here." Not that I have a handicapped fetish, and she seemed a little older than what I'm into ... but everything else!) So I just replied that personally, I've always liked my women on the bigger side like that ... with some muscles and who weigh a lot more than you'd think they did to look at them. We talked about a few other topics like family/kids, and that's when she said she had a daughter who was almost finished with college, and that she "had the same genetics; big, strong and solid". I said I wish I knew a girl like that when I was in college. She laughed and said her boyfriend is a big, tall guy on the football team who weighs around 300lbs. But she's bigger than him and picks him up like a sack of potatoes and carries him around their house sometimes. Every step she makes, it's like "Boom!" and you feel the whole house shake a little bit. Man ... I'd love to see that.

I feel like it should be a virtual smorgasbord of "something for everyone" around here who is looking for alternatives to real skinny girls? But sure, I can understand how someone bigger would get a little upset or disillusioned if they see someone thinner than them doing essentially the same kinds of photo shoots or videos and getting far more attention. I think there may be a number of factors though? Off the top of my head? 1. A certain percentage of guys into women gaining probably just like seeing obvious growth? Someone who starts out pretty thin and decides to gain, say, 100lbs. as a goal is likely to show all those "in between" phases where various body parts get obviously bigger in proportion to others, as they start that filling-out process. The SSBBW types are usually already pretty well filled out all over, so their videos from month to month aren't likely to really show that same kind of thing, even if they're actively gaining. 2. I get what the other person who posted was trying to say .... that there's a difference between trying to make BBW/SSBBW videos because you're big or getting bigger, and making them because you really have a compellingly attractive look (facial features that make you look "model like" or "exotic", for example). I think for the thinner ones who just qualify as "curvy/chunky"? They're probably more likely to be doing their videos because they've got that "above average" level of all around attractiveness that has nothing to do with their size. At the opposite end of the spectrum, it's honestly just more varied. Not trying to insult or belittle anyone here by saying this, but I've definitely seen some of the really large SSBBWs putting up videos on the net who just aren't that attractive by most guy's beauty standards. Wouldn't matter if they were 120lbs. instead of 600. They just have kind of an average or even "rough looking" appearance. And for them? I think any popularity they've got is truly all about the weight fetish. 3. I think sometimes (maybe not so often, but ...), it can just be as simple as the clothing choices. For example, some women opt to wear shorts, jeans or pants that are worn above the belly. I'm not sure this crowd, on the whole, finds that the look they're really longing for vs seeing the belly hanging out over the top? All real subjective, and I get that as you get into larger sizes, it's tougher to find "sexy" clothing too. But just saying that can all play a role in "popularity" on these sites.

Ok, so not exactly sure this belongs here - but can't find a better place to post it, so ... I'm just randomly curious what the most Chipotle food is anyone here has eaten in one sitting? I found this girl online, over on FetLife, who is into stuffing and weight-gain who managed to eat 4 burrito bowls AND a burrito from them, all at once! A lot of the stuffing videos or women bragging on how much they eat at once only mildly impresses me, I guess, because it seems like "a lot of food, but totally doable". You know, the stuff like, "I went to McDonalds and ate 2 Big Mac meals!"? Yeah, ok ... I'm just an average-sized guy and if I was especially hungry, I could do that too. Even the people who eat a whole large pizza? Again, that's a lot - but I've had pizzas that tasted so good, I could see eating the entire thing, if someone else wasn't grabbing slices from it first. Might regret it later, but doable. But Chipotle? Man, I order from them at lunch time occasionally and one of their burrito bowls is really filling. I've eaten the bag of chips and queso with one of those and a regular size drink with a refill before, and I'd say that's really about my limit. I'm unable to eat anything else the rest of the day after that - and I've pretty much stopped trying to order the chips with it anymore. Because yeah, it sounds good at the time but it's just a little too much by the time I eat it all. So I just did a quick search through the videos here, and yeah - wow. I see a few women with Chipotle stuffings where they ate 2 bowls and maybe a side item or a dessert or what-not. But 4 of them PLUS a burrito? Can't find anyone saying they accomplished that!

Yeah... I think the belly is definitely the biggest "guilt" area for women, and even for guys who aren't comfortable being heavier. Especially for women who have a kid? 9 times out of 10, they're running to the gym or some kind of exercise classes after that, trying to "get rid of the baby belly" like it's a curse. That's really odd when you consider how many guys out there are into the pregnant look, which is predominantly about the large belly. I used to know this lady who was pretty "odd" in that she had a kid and kept her belly the same size it was when she was 8-9 months along, for 4 years after that. She went to parties wearing things like button-down shirts with the bottom buttons unfastened so her tummy was on display, and guys LOVED it! I mean, sure -- not everyone was into it, but it was amazing how much positive attention she got from guys asking other people who she was and trying to get to know her better! A flat stomach does seem to come naturally for some -- and a few women even build 6-pack abs lifting weights in the gym. I'm fine with all of that, but it doesn't take a thing away from a nice looking belly either. It would be great if society would trend away from seeing it as so negative vs just another trait you have or don't have.