Phatcat... I rarely ever take the time to respond on here, but I felt I should now. It's great that you've stuck it out. I found myself in a similar situation years ago... Very attracted to a very pretty girl and her awesome personality despite the fact that she was thinner than I ever would have thought for myself a...This was FAR from my ideal physical companion, but I wanted love more than anything...She has still never grown fully comfortable with the idea of gaining weight, but over the years my support for her body and my subtle encouragement has led her to go from 5'5" 120-5 to about 5'5" 155-60 (through her mid 20's)...She still looks thin and great in clothes, but she is so soft and incredible underneath...As some have said on here, when you truly love and value your partner, every one pound can feel like 5...She turns me on like crazy now and I can't wait to see where it goes...Best of luck, and if you need any advice, you've definitely come to the right place