Dumplin

Find a submissive that wants to have her body controlled for her rather than trying to coerce her? Honestly, if your affection and earnest explanation don’t change her mind, you should probably just let her lose the weight...

Only thing I can suggest is compliments (but not all the time) and soft touches. Its one thing to say she is looking beautiful but its more sincere and more rewarding when you also touch and explore that softness, so you show her that you are very much liking the change in her.

Compliments and attention. Tell her how sexy you think her belly is and then kiss it and rub it. 😉 Women love reassurance.

At least 10% weight gain to start with, so she can get a feel for it.

i would start with a fairly easy and practical goal, like 5 pounds or so, or even less, 3 pounds in a month something like that. baby steps. marathon view.

What do you mean??

I was meaning ways to make feedism more appealing to your partner. My girlfriend doesn’t  doesn’t know I have a kink for it yet

Yes of course. High carb high fat diet will make you super squishy and fat. You will lose muscle mass and gain pure fat. Depends on what you want really. My ex was a vegetarian and got super squishy (skinny-fat). 

My girlfriend is vegetarian and has gained some serious weight before we met, but she's up 30lbs since we've been together. Though, I think she was on track all on her own... 😂

lots of compliments!! in the end you can't change someone's self image, but if you help them build confidence and let them know that they don't need to change for you they might feel more comfortable with their size and stop wanting to diet. However, if dieting is something they want to do for themselves, you should support them through it and still love them. Its equally damaging for a woman who wants to lose weight to think that you will only be attracted to her if she's gaining - especially if feederism isn't something she is into or understands. best of luck!!

Yes, what I previously said means absolutely nothing, I take it...

If she won't, it means she won't .

Don't coerce a woman to do something unwillingly. Furthermore, she's probably either insecure about her size or bipolar, in those both cases you better let her do what she want with her body because she's unpredictable anyway.

Yeah, find a girl that is happy being fat. You want a fat fucktoy, Craigslist or Tinder can help you. I think the reason why mainstream Society sees us as a bunch of fetishists, is because a lot of us can't see the girl past the fat. 

I'm out of Dr. Phil-esque cliches today, but if her physical weight is that big of a deal to you, maybe it's time to rethink your ideal of a relationship.

Agree with the previous comments. Nine times out of ten trying to get someone to gain who doesn't want to will end badly for both parties. Imagine if she didn't want to but you managed to convince her to gain, and then she later developed diabetes or heart disease. Those are the risks any gainer accepts, but when they've been coerced the blame would revert to you.