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My new gf’s relationship with food is a confusing one so would like your thoughts. She often mentions that she’s fat etc in a derogatory way and claims she barely eats anything. She tends not to eat masses when I’m around and has said ‘you don’t eat much’ before. She also has indicated her parents are sizeist. However, I find it hot when the little signs that she’s greedy and does actually eat a lot behind closed doors appear. She’s about 5”0, a size 12, fairly chubby and said she put on a stone at college (we graduated not long ago and she’s v sporty) She’s now saying she’s trying to lose weight/ is on a diet. I wonder if you had any thoughts on whether she’s pigging out behind closed doors/there’s good potential for further gain despite dieting. Here are some stories to help you you get the picture, bear in mind these have all occurred in ~6 months of dating (long distance til last month): When we first started hooking up, she once ame back to my place after a night out. On the way home, we were very ** we stopped off and got a doner kebab and chips and ate when we got in. We didn’t finish so I put them in the fridge. The kind of fast food that is a bit grim and you only want it when you’re **. However, she left early the next morning and I later noticed that she’d taken her leftover kebab with her. It would have been cold and really not nice by then. Found it hot that despite leaving in a rush early she’d remembered to get her kebab from the kitchen to finish. Another sign was when she bought herself Reese’s advent calendar. However, she confessed to eating more than just the one on the day. When her flatmate (who also had an advent calendar) noticed this she said it wasn’t Christmassy to eat the chocolate several days ahead. My gf, to hide it from her flatmate said she went inside the doors she’d already opened and felt upwards/across to have chocolate for later days in the calendar without it looking like it. I later inspected the advent calendar and saw that she’d had every single one. She claimed that she did it ‘because she was bored’. Found the whole thing v hot. One time, we went to the cinema after a massive meal and I was so full. I went to get a coke and she suggested we get a big bag of chocolates too, I was like sure (of course) and bought them. We were there early so had to wait 10 or so minutes before the cinema opened. As soon as we sat down in the waiting area she said can we open them. I passed them over to her and she started munching on them, she offered me some but I said no. We then went in a during the film she carried on steadily making her way through them. She then offered me them again saying ‘you haven’t had any yet, if you don’t now I’ll end up finishing them’. Found this very interesting because it showed she’d been trying to resist them for a while so not to have them all to herself, when I hadn’t even thought about them once. I said ‘have them if you want I don’t care’. And she immediately devoured the rest of them rapidly - they’d clearly been on her mind for a while. She even licked her fingers after ahah. A weekend last month was a good example, On the first night we met some friends for drinks and she kept saying how hungry she was (I was fine). We got takeout on the way home and she wanted extra chips but they didn’t have any sadly. The following day was where it got interesting - we went to a market in the late afternoon, I’d eaten a late breakfast so wasn’t too hungry. I suggested she gets a snack as we were going out for a big meal later. I waited while she ordered and she confessed she’d actually ordered a full meal instead. She offered me some but I politely declined and she polished it all off. Only about 1.5 hours later, we went for our evening meal. We both got large wraps (and I mean large) and chips. She said she wouldn’t be able to finish her wrap but could always take it home. When the food came I finished mine when she had some of her wrap left and she asked if I wanted hers. I said no it’s fine (for obvious reasons haha) but I said we could take hers home. She then said Hmm no quietly and proceeded to devour it all, so she clearly still wanted but didn’t want to seem too greedy in front of me. We’d planned a movie night afterward and she said ‘I have some low calorie brownies at mine we could have’ as snacks. I said I was thinking we could go to the shop for some snacks and she immediately and excitedly said ‘oh that’s a great idea’. We went to the shop and got a big back of chocolates each. When we put the movie on she legit finished her bag in less than 5 minutes (~500 calories) when I hadn’t even opened mine. When I did open mine, she helped herself to some without even asking ahahah despite all that food. The following day after we woke up, at one point she was staring into the distance and asked what she was thinking about and she said ‘those chocolates’ ahahah. I couldn’t believe it. I never finished my chocolates. She was like going to the shop was a great idea and I said yeah, you could get snacks more often or something and she said ‘yeah but if I did I’d end up going every day’ We then went out for a big brunch after which I was full. Yet not two hours later she made herself another meal. I finished off my chocolates and when she saw the bag she legit exclaimed ‘ooo’ and said ‘can I have some’. She also made a comment about how her portions at home were tiny and now they’ve left home her and her siblings ‘eat crap’, even though her sister is stick thin so I was like hmmmm ahah. It’s crazy how much more obvious her greed is getting. If she was more secure about her weight she’d explode. Valentines was an interesting one. I brought her a box of ~16 lindors (alongside something else) as part of a valentines gift. She had 2 that afternoon. Then the following day she went out for lunch with friends while I was out with my family, I was back later than her. When I got back I asked her if I could have one and she confessed that she’d finished them after her lunch. She later said ‘I can’t have chocolate because I eat it all straight away’. I said could she not make it last longer and she said she physically can’t not have snacks at once if they’re in the house. I said she cared too much and should just have what she enjoys. Last week, We went out for a meal and I mentioned I needed to go to the shop to get a drink, she said ‘I want to go too’. I asked why and she didn’t say anything. She then bought a 120g bar of chocolate and proceeded to eat it all in 30 mins. She said she has to eat all it once and physically can’t restrain herself. The following day was a work night and after dinner she said ‘because I had it yesterday I really want chocolate again today’. I said go for it and she got another 120g bar which she devoured in a similar time frame. She claimed she only ever has chocolate when I’m there which I find hard to believe 🤣 What does everyone think?? I’ve posted before separately but thought better to have one dedicated thread.

this weekend produced some interesting results. We went out for a meal and I mentioned I needed to go to the shop to get a drink, she said ‘I want to go too’. I asked why and she didn’t say anything. She then bought a 120g bar of chocolate and proceeded to eat it all in 30 mins. She said she has to eat all it once and physically can’t restrain herself. The following day was a work night and after dinner she said ‘because I had it yesterday I really want chocolate again today’. I said go for it and she got another 120g bar which she devoured in a similar time frame. She claimed she only ever has chocolate when I’m there which I find hard to believe 🤣

this weekend produced some interesting results. We went out for a meal and I mentioned I needed to go to the shop to get a drink, she said ‘I want to go too’. I asked why and she didn’t say anything. She then bought a 120g bar of chocolate and proceeded to eat it all in 30 mins. She said she has to eat all it once and physically can’t restrain herself. The following day was a work night and after dinner she said ‘because I had it yesterday I really want chocolate again today’. I said go for it and she got another 120g bar which she devoured in a similar time frame. She claimed she only ever has chocolate when I’m there which I find hard to believe 🤣

This weekend was an interesting one. I brought her a box of ~16 lindors (alongside something else) as a valentines gift. She had 2 that afternoon. Then the following day she went out for lunch with friends while I was out with my family, I was back later than her. When I got back I asked her if I could have one and she confessed that she’d finished them after her lunch. She later said ‘I can’t have chocolate because I eat it all straight away’. I said could she not make it last longer and she said she physically can’t not have snacks at once if they’re in the house. I said she cared too much and should just have what she enjoys. She seemed to like that.

What are some of the most fattening snacks I could buy for my gf?

Seeing her this weekend for the first time in a couple of weeks. What are some good ideas for some fattening treats as a valentine’s gift hahah?

Liberty looking big in the face

Couple of small (less juicy) updates. We’re currently doing semi long distance. Was on the phone to her and she at one point sounded had her mouth full and I asked if she was eating. She said yes some chocolate cake, this was at like 2:30pm so on top of lunch. The next day she sent a picture that revealed she was in a fast food ** at like 5:30pm. She claimed she had no food in the house was why. Seemed a bit convenient. Nothing that notable but good signs nonetheless

My girlfriend greedy weekend So I mentioned a while back that the more I get to know my gf the more her greed shows. On the first night we met some friends for drinks and she kept saying how hungry she was (I was fine). We got takeout on the way home and she wanted extra chips but they didn’t have any sadly. The following day was where it got interesting - we went to a market in the late afternoon, I’d eaten a late breakfast so wasn’t too hungry. I suggested she gets a snack as we were going out for a big meal later. I waited while she ordered and she confessed she’d actually ordered a full meal instead. She offered me some but I politely declined and she polished it all off. Only about 1.5 hours later, we went for our evening meal. We both got large wraps (and I mean large) and chips. She said she wouldn’t be able to finish her wrap but could always take it home. When the food came I finished mine when she had some of her wrap left and she asked if I wanted hers. I said no it’s fine (for obvious reasons haha) but I said we could take hers home. She then said Hmm no quietly and proceeded to devour it all, so she clearly still wanted but didn’t want to seem too greedy in front of me. We’d planned a movie night afterward and she said ‘I have some low calorie brownies at mine we could have’ as snacks. I said I was thinking we could go to the shop for some snacks and she immediately and excitedly said ‘oh that’s a great idea’. We went to the shop and got a big back of chocolates each. When we put the movie on she legit finished her bag in less than 5 minutes (~500 calories) when I hadn’t even opened mine. When I did open mine, she helped herself to some without even asking ahahah despite all that food. The following day after we woke up, at one point she was staring into the distance and asked what she was thinking about and she said ‘those chocolates’ ahahah. I couldn’t believe it. I never finished my chocolates. She was like going to the shop was a great idea and I said yeah, you could get snacks more often or something and she said ‘yeah but if I did I’d end up going every day’ We then went out for a big brunch after which I was full. Yet not two hours later she made herself another meal. I finished off my chocolates and when she saw the bag she legit exclaimed ‘ooo’ and said ‘can I have some’. She also made a comment about how her portions at home were tiny and now they’ve left home her and her siblings ‘eat crap’, even though her sister is stick thin so I was like hmmmm ahah. It’s crazy how much more obvious her greed is getting. If she was more secure about her weight she’d explode. She’s 5”0 and a size 12 if anyone could estimate her weight from that. I’m really excited about where this could go.

So I mentioned a while back that the more I get to know my gf the more her greed shows. This weekend was a good example, On the first night we met some friends for drinks and she kept saying how hungry she was (I was fine). We got takeout on the way home and she wanted extra chips but they didn’t have any sadly. The following day was where it got interesting - we went to a market in the late afternoon, I’d eaten a late breakfast so wasn’t too hungry. I suggested she gets a snack as we were going out for a big meal later. I waited while she ordered and she confessed she’d actually ordered a full meal instead. She offered me some but I politely declined and she polished it all off. Only about 1.5 hours later, we went for our evening meal. We both got large wraps (and I mean large) and chips. She said she wouldn’t be able to finish her wrap but could always take it home. When the food came I finished mine when she had some of her wrap left and she asked if I wanted hers. I said no it’s fine (for obvious reasons haha) but I said we could take hers home. She then said Hmm no quietly and proceeded to devour it all, so she clearly still wanted but didn’t want to seem too greedy in front of me. We’d planned a movie night afterward and she said ‘I have some low calorie brownies at mine we could have’ as snacks. I said I was thinking we could go to the shop for some snacks and she immediately and excitedly said ‘oh that’s a great idea’. We went to the shop and got a big back of chocolates each. When we put the movie on she legit finished her bag in less than 5 minutes (~500 calories) when I hadn’t even opened mine. When I did open mine, she helped herself to some without even asking ahahah despite all that food. The following day after we woke up, at one point she was staring into the distance and asked what she was thinking about and she said ‘those chocolates’ ahahah. I couldn’t believe it. I never finished my chocolates. She was like going to the shop was a great idea and I said yeah, you could get snacks more often or something and she said ‘yeah but if I did I’d end up going every day’ We then went out for a big brunch after which I was full. Yet not two hours later she made herself another meal. I finished off my chocolates and when she saw the bag she legit exclaimed ‘ooo’ and said ‘can I have some’. She also made a comment about how her portions at home were tiny and now they’ve left home her and her siblings ‘eat crap’, even though her sister is stick thin so I was like hmmmm ahah. It’s crazy how much more obvious her greed is getting. If she was more secure about her weight she’d explode. She’s 5”0 and a size 12 if anyone could estimate her weight from that. I’m really excited about where this could go.

How to encourage my gf’s appetite? Recently become apparent my 5ft uk size 12 new gf (could anyone m estimate her weight based off that btw?) is insecure about her weight. She says she’s fat sometimes and wears swimsuits instead bc of it. I think she’s gotten grief from her family. However, she’s put on a few pounds since knowing her bc started her first job. She also has a big appetite she tries to hide but there are little hints it’s there and she eats more in private. E.g. her size/gain doesn’t make much sense otherwise, she ate all her advent calendar chocolates secretly within a few days, she immediately wanted to start our chocolates in the cinema and ate them all herself without me having any. I feel bad for her but feel I could break down her insecurity bc I compliment her body loads and encourage her to eat if she wants. Anyone had a similar situation and have tips for how to get her to embrace her body/love of food? Also, how did it play out (is fun to hear stories)?

Was just wondering - for those who encouraged a gain that went too far and couldn’t be reversed even if they wanted to - how did it happen?

My new gf’s relationship with food is a confusing one so would like your thoughts. She often mentions that she’s fat etc in a derogatory way and claims she barely eats anything. She tends not to eat masses when I’m around and has said ‘you don’t eat much’ before. She also has indicated her parents are sizeist. However, I find it hot when the little signs that she’s greedy and does actually eat a lot behind closed doors appear. For instance, she once ame back to my place after a night out. On the way home, we were very ** we stopped off and got a doner kebab and chips and ate when we got in. We didn’t finish so I put them in the fridge. The kind of fast food that is a bit grim and you only want it when you’re **. However, she left early the next morning and I later noticed that she’d taken her leftover kebab with her. It would have been cold and really not nice by then. Found it hot that despite leaving in a rush early she’d remembered to get her kebab from the kitchen to finish, clearly the sign of a greedy girl. Another sign was when she bought herself Reese’s advent calendar. However, she confessed to eating more than just the one on the day. When her flatmate (who also had an advent calendar) noticed this she said it wasn’t Christmassy to eat the chocolate several days ahead. My gf, to hide it from her flatmate said she went inside the doors she’d already opened and felt upwards/across to have chocolate for later days in the calendar without it looking like it. I later inspected the advent calendar and saw that she’d had every single one. She claimed that she did it ‘because she was bored’. Found the whole thing v hot. Just yesterday, we went to the cinema after a massive meal and I was so full. I went to get a coke and she suggested we get a big bag of chocolates too, I was like sure (of course) and bought them. We were there early so had to wait 10 or so minutes before the cinema opened. As soon as we sat down in the waiting area she said can we open them. I passed them over to her and she started munching on them, she offered me some but I said no. We then went in a during the film she carried on steadily making her way through them. She then offered me them again saying ‘you haven’t had any yet, if you don’t now I’ll end up finishing them’. Found this very interesting because it showed she’d been trying to resist them for a while so not to have them all to herself, when I hadn’t even thought about them once. I said ‘have them if you want I don’t care’. And she immediately devoured the rest of them rapidly - they’d clearly been on her mind for a while. She even licked her fingers after at which point I was struggling ahaha. She’s 5ft and probably weighs around 70kg (is a guess). It seems to me like she’s very greedy and eats a lot on the sly but reins it in more than she wants because she’s self conscious about her weight (she’s also quite sporty). This is partly due to her parents I assume. Seems as though it could get really special if I made her more confident about her body. Especially because she’s just started an office job so has less time to workout. What do you think will happen if I make her more confident/encourage her to eat what she wants?

Very hot instance with my gf again ahah - this weekend was a gold mine, the more I get to know her the more I can see her greed. She tries to hide it atm because we’re still in early stages. We went to the cinema after a massive meal and I was so full. I went to get a coke and she suggested we get a big bag of chocolates too, I was like sure (of course) and bought them. We were there early so had to wait 10 or so minutes before the cinema opened. As soon as we sat down in the waiting area she said can we open them. I passed them over to her and she started munching on them, she offered me some but I said no. We then went in a during the film she carried on steadily making her way through them. She then offered me them again saying ‘you haven’t had any yet, if you don’t now I’ll end up finishing them’. Found this very interesting because it showed she’d been trying to resist them for a while so not to have them all to herself, when I hadn’t even thought about them once. I said ‘have them if you want I don’t care’. And she immediately devoured the rest of them rapidly - they’d clearly been on her mind for a while. She even licked her fingers after at which point I was struggling ahaha. She’s 5ft and probably weighs around 70kg (is a guess) but I’m excited to see where this could go when she gets fully comfortable. Any tips on how to proceed?

Another hot instance with my gf. She bought herself a Reese’s advent calendar. However, she confessed to eating more than just the one on the day. When her flatmate (who also had an advent calendar) saw she said it wasn’t Christmassy to eat the chocolate several days ahead. My gf, to hide it from her flatmate said she went inside the doors she’d already opened and felt upwards/across to have chocolate for later days in the calendar without it looking like it. I later inspected the advent calendar and saw that she’d had every single one. She claimed that she did it ‘because she was bored’. Found the whole thing v hot