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I appreciate all of the advice. I'm not ignoring it. She is a real life person who I've invested time in and went on a successful trip in the last few weeks, so it's tough to just let her go without trying to work it out. All of your comments actually made me realize that she is being a jerk in this. I didn't mention she has apologized for some of the mean things she has done, but doesn't seem to stop the behavior. I need to be more clear to her how much her reactions bother me and that we can't keep on going on like this if our relationship is to succeed. Communicating about the fetish might be an idea. The fetish actually could be one of the root causes of my ED. She actually put on 50 pounds before we started dating due to stress eating, but isn't a fan of her weight gain. So bringing up the fetish could also be a bad idea. As said though, what is there to lose? It also sounds like exercise could be a natural solution for me. I work a sedentary job and my only physical activity is a daily 40 minute walk. I'm thinking that may not be enough, and I need to incorporate some cardio to get blood pumping and anxiety curbing endorphins flowing again.

Thanks for the feedback guys! My girlfriend definitely has her good qualities as well (our only disagreements so far come on sex), but I take some solace in the fact that you all think she's being unreasonable with some of her sexual demands. I'm trying hard to convince her to let me please her in other ways (hand job, over the phone dirty talk while she masturbates, dildos, etc). I even told her if she let me please her in these ways it may help take the edge off and build my sexual confidence back up seeing that I made her pleased in other ways, but she has none of that. She keeps saying "I only want your dick". She'll also feel my dick and when it's not hard, say "You're not hard" in a disappointed voice at times. I understand her point of view being sexually frustrated and really wanting penetration, but think she has to be more open about other ways to get her off. By focusing solely on my dick being able to please her, I've almost developed a performance anxiety in bed and the pleasure for sex has eroded from me. I'll see what comes out of this doctor's visit. If I'm able to get firm erections again and make sex pleasing again, I think this relationship will be A-OK. If not, I'm not sure it's sustainable for us to stay together. She clearly wants and needs penis penetration sex. If I can't give that to her, my self-esteem will continue to be lowered and she'll have to find someone else to please her unless she's willing to work with me in other ways.

Hi, I do realize this is a fetish related forum, but I thought I would share my story here in case anyone else is having similar issues. I've been in a 3.5 month relationship with a nice woman. Our only disagreements come over my lack of ability to maintain a strong enough erection to please her. I am 28, and she is 25. We recently took a vacation and a couple of weeks before the trip was the first time we tried being intimate. I failed miserably and couldn't get a strong enough erection to stay inside of her. She got really upset and thought it was because I wasn't attracted to her. She stormed out of my apartment and stopped talking to me for a day. She told me she has never had to deal with this problem before and told me this was more of a problem with old men than someone who is 28. I explained to her that I am really attracted to her and that I love her (that's the truth). I told her the problem is mostly one of my own, but it makes me feel worse when she reacts like that. Since that day, she said she would be better at reacting to my lack of erections to please her but she hasn't (more on that later). On the vacation, we finally hit a home run and I was able to make her cum once and maintain a couple of strong erections while she blew me on the trip. Oddly enough, I am able to get hard when she gives me a blow job or hand job usually. My erectile issues seem to be related to the vagina, as I can't seem to get a strong enough erection most of the time to get in there. I was only able to get really hard once there. I should also note I haven't had a lot of experience and didn't masturbate with lube regularly so maybe I'm just not used to the feeling of a vagina yet? Could it also be that I've fantasized too much about weight gain over the years to get hard over normal sex? As soon as we came back from the vacay my ED seems to have come back. One night when I wasn't in the mood (didn't even try sex as we had a late night flight back and I was tired), she slept in the other room in frustration. Last night it happened again and she kept trying to get me to have sex (3 times and I failed each time). I did get pretty erect when she played with my balls, but as soon as I got inside of her I lost the erection. What made me upset is she told me "you're not even trying", but on 3 occasions I did and lost wood. Her disappointment at the lack of my ability to please her is killing me. She gets visibly upset, and I think it makes me feel even worse. I've pleaded with her to let me give her a hand job or use a vibrator for the time being as an alternative to please her, and she is having none of it. She frequently shuts down socially when I can't perform, and I've told her that I understand but that it makes me feel worse when I see her visibly upset. She wants my penis penetration only. I'm kind of feeling lost and like a failure. She also has made a couple of joking comments recently about how I can't get it up and yesterday called me "Baby dick". She keeps saying sex is "really important" to her and that it needs to happen soon and at least once or twice a week. I brought up in the fact that there's hope since I made her cum on vacation. I also am really trying to convince her to let me please her in alternate ways but she only wants penis penetration. I used to be a heavy fetish porn watcher in my early and mid 20's and think a combination of that and performance anxiety could be causing this. However, in the last year or so I've even lost desire to watch porn regularly. I can go like a week or two without masturbating and not even get morning wood or feel the urge to do it. I've only fapped once in the last month and still have a low sex drive. I wonder if it's low testosterone. I've only seen moderate results using natural erectile dysfunction remedies like horny goat weed. Nonetheless, this problem has started to eat away at me, and I just wish my girlfriend would be a little more supportive about it. Is this relationship worth continuing on? Our only argument has been about sex. I feel an enormous pressure to perform for her, but can't. I'm going to schedule a doctor's appointment this week to see if he can figure out the reason behind my ED. Any support/comments would be appreciated!

When I worked in retail back around 2010-2011 there was an older woman in her 50's who shopped at the store I worked at. There was an unconfirmed rumor she was a Chicago Bears cheerleader in the 70s, but she had that aged, tanned, and bloated look to her (think like a female version of Vince Neil's body). I have no idea how she gained it. My guess would be over time due to old age.

She's not really skinny either. With her current physique, she's only about 15 pounds away from looking thick.

Do you have a particular regimen you've been following to gain or just kind of eating whatever you desire?

I'm glad we can have an intelligent and level headed discussion on this. On another popular feedist hangout spot that can't be addressed by its real name here (let's just call it Pheeee Bee), you would be chastised and damned if you questioned your fetish in any way.

Totally agree with you Purtychubby. I have this fetish, and it is a dangerous fetish for both sides if you let it go too far. I've fed just one person in real life before and outside of the feeding, we had no connection or common bond whatsoever. The lack of connection left me feeling kind of empty afterwards and taught me a lesson that meaningful relationships are more than just a fetish. If you want to deeply connect with someone, there has to be a whole hell of a lot more there and to obsess over someone's body is just setting your relationship up for failure. There are also a lot of health and social repercussions that come with gaining weight. Going to the gym at least once in a blue moon is probably a good idea.

It looks like Alexa lost a little weight to me. Jojo looks huge in the one screenshot that is available.

Most of the female gains I've seen on Youtube are slight to moderate intentional gains from taking apetamin. Female mukbang videos have recently started to gain popularity, and you can't help but wonder if a few female mukbangers will pack on the pounds as they continue to post videos of themselves eating large portions of food.

She's still on the thin side, but maybe Scarlett Bordeaux is someone to keep an eye on for some slight ass gains? She's the blonde in this video and has recently been talking about eating a lot on her Instagram.

I think JoJo may be dating or at the very least is travel buddies with Bray Wyatt. It looks like she picked up his eating habits too lol. She gains in all the right places, so this should be fun to watch her develop

Do it! I'm sure a lot of people are interested, including myself

If you want to gain fast, maybe you are best off buying a weight gain powder and just having a weight gain shake a little before bed. You can also try Boost or Ensure. Both have higher calorie formulas. My recommendation would be to gain at your own pace and not worry about gaining quickly. It will start to feel like a chore and it may be frustrating if you don't see immediate results. You want to keep this process fun and enjoyable! Small calorie excesses will add up over time. Have a doughnut with breakfast, sneak in a bowl of cereal after dinner when you already feeling full, drink a Boost or 2 between meals, order the largest portions at a restaurant, etc.

Damn, this gain is escalating quickly with the apetamin. I like your unique look too. I wouldn't be surprised if you start inspiring other females to gain soon, if you haven't already lol